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By Dr Barbara Louw

People seem to minimize the impact of bullying by saying it is just a little conflict or squabbling between two parties. The reality is that bulling is controlling behaviour where there is a power imbalance.

In bullying, this imbalance starts with a perception of being ‘superior’ over someone who seem to be ‘inferior’, in one or many ways. This perception can come from elevated social status, being physically larger, older, and more popular. Deep-rooted causes include jealousy and bitterness. People who bully perceive their target as a weak, vulnerable coward. The bully seem to find some satisfaction in hurting, harming and humiliating someone else.

On the other hand, conflict is a disagreement or argument in which both sides can express their views. There is a measure of normal self-regulatory behaviour and equal power between the individuals. This means that conflict is a normal part of human communication that can surface from time to time as people interact. In this interaction allows adjustment of behaviour when the line of acceptable and unacceptable behaviour is crossed. People can modify their actions and words when they realize that they are hurting someone and will usually stop the hurtful behaviour.

Bully behaviour surfaces when someone intents to cause harm, pain and humiliation. This intentional to harm and hurt goes beyond normal conflict, because the bully continues the behaviour even (or especially) when they know their misbehaviour is hurting someone.

Conflict is a natural part of human communication and allows people to grow and change. However, no one deserves to be bullied, because bullying is meant to cause pain and humiliation.

Our ‘Stop Bullying’ campaign focusses on finding longterm solutions that will work in every unique situation. This includes raising public awareness via our social platforms with free resources and presenting an online workshop. We present talks, seminars and tailor made workshop for specific school and/or churches.

Aquilla Training presents the ‘Addressing Bullying” online workshop starts on 15 April 2019 and CPSC accredited the workshop with 4 CPD points.

The online workshop programme include:

  • Definitions and types of bullying.
  • Explanation who will require help from the pastoral counsellor.
  • Frequency of bullying in schools, churches, families and the community.
  • Role players in the prevalence of bullying.
  • Warning signs and effect of bullying.
  • Intervention and the educator/parent/counsellor’s role in the healing process.

When on the website do the following to register:

  1. Register for an account
  2. Verify your account
  3. Login to your account
  4. Once logged in Select Online workshops on right hand margin and add to cart
  5. or select from main menu: Workshop Registration -> Online Workshops
  6. Add workshop/s to Cart
  7. select Payment Options  (Offline EFT or Payfast)
  8. Once Payment process is complete your Online workshop should be avilable from My Courses

Any questions with regards to registration email admin

Convenience of Online Workshops

The online workshops are launched on a set date and remains available for a period of at least a year.

The most important benefit of the online workshop is that it you complete it at a time and pace that is convenient for you. You register on the website, choose your topic and after the payment process you can start with the workshop.

You can work through the material in one sitting or at your expediency, as long as you complete all the elements within 60 days from registration. Once completed, the workshop certificate will be ready to download.

Workshops in Polokwane/Pieterburg

21 – 23 May 2019

Topics: (Click topic to see detail of workshop)

Book now to prevent disappointment. Seats are limited.

Embitterment in the Workplace (4 CPSC CPD points)

Trauma Relief for Management (SACE 5 CPTD points)

Posttraumatic Wellness Model for Counsellors (4 CPSC CPD points)

Adhering to Ethics made Practical (SACE 5 CPTD points)

Business Management for Counselling Practice/your Business (3 CPSC CPD points)

Diversity Awareness and Sensitive Support

Workshop Dates Across South Africa

Pretoria 4 -5 June 2019

Nelspruit 11 – 12 June 2019

Vereniging 9 – 11 July 2019

Kimberley 22 – 23 July 2019

Pretoria 6 – 7 August 2019

Durban 13 – 15 August 2019

Pietermartizburg 16 – 17 August 2019

Newcastle 19 – 21 August 2019

Jeffrey’s Bay 2 - 3 September 2019

Port Elizabeth 4 - 6 September 2019

East London 9 – 11 September 2019

Western Cape 2 – 4 October 2019

George 7 – 9 October 2019

Pretoria 15 – 16 October 2019

Bloemfontein 29 – 31 October 2019

Pretoria 12 – 13 November 2019

Urgent request

If you are from Upington, Northern Cape or Graaff Reinette, Eastern Cape and you are interested in the workshops please be so kind to send an email to Dr Barbara Louw.

Since we are experiencing logistical challenges, we need to establish whether presenting in these two areas is feasible.

Tentative dates depends on feasiable numbers in these areas.

Upington 17-19 July 2019

Graaff Reinette 10-12 October 2019

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